It can be hard to ask for help. You can still be the best Mom to your children if you ask for help from others. Don’t let these excuses stop you from getting the support that you deserve:
I like to be independent.
You may not want to ask for help from others if you are used to doing things on your own. Asking others for assistance does not mean that you can’t get things done. It shows your confidence, strength, and maturity. You know what you need and you aren’t afraid to ask for it.
I don’t want to seem needy.
If you are worried about asking for too much or seeming demanding, here are a few suggestions:
- Be clear about what you are asking and why you need the help.
- Be sure to thank them. Show your appreciation for their help. They will enjoy hearing how their support made a difference.
- Carefully choose who you ask for help. Ask someone who you know will listen and care.
- Team up with another mom, you can give each other a hand.
I will wait until someone offers to help.
It’s hard for other people to know the help you need. This is especially true if you hide the problem. People can’t read your mind. They may not notice what you need. Ask for their support and let them know ways they can be helpful.
I don’t deserve help.
Everyone needs help once in a while. You deserve it. You do so much for your family. Let someone be there for you. Accepting help can strengthen friendships and relationships.
I don’t know what to say.
Some people will offer to help before you even ask. Other times, we have to ask for the help we need. Be clear and direct. Try saying, “I’m having trouble with this. Can you help me?”
I already asked, and no one helped.
You may want to give up when you don’t get the help you expect right away. Getting help takes effort.
- You may have to ask more than once.
- If one person can’t help, try asking someone new.
- You deserve support and there are people out there who will give it to you, just keep looking.
- Your WIN Network: Detroit support team is here for you too. Reach out to them. Call 313.874.4581, they can help you get in touch with resources right in your neighborhood.
Tips for Dad:
Mom may want to do everything on her own. Try to offer your help, even if she doesn’t ask for it.